Children do need both roots and wings from the very beginning; the development of their autonomy starts at best as soon as the safe and secure binding and relationship with parents and home. Relationship is less an issue of quantity but more of the quality of the contact, particularly of the intimacy, the direct loving physical, mental and social contact between adult and child.

Attachment disorder frequently arises in pre-school children as a reaction to the loss of primary caregivers, e.g. parents, at a young age, neglect, sexual abuse or severe maltreatment, or also unresolved history of traumatisation in the parents, and is marked by lasting abnormalities in social behavior.

Many of these children show contradictory or ambivalent reactions in different social situations; they are less accessible emotionally, retreat often, develop a fearful oversensitivity or aggressive response out of an inner distress, have difficulty forming adequate emotional bonds. They do not cope well with stress, have low self-esteem and an increased risk for psychic and psychosomatic diseases.

An attachment disorder can persist into adulthood and interfere with a sufferer´s creation of relationships, capability and sense of identity.

My dear…
how can I be more loving to you?
How can I be more kind?